I actually wrote this post last week. Tonight, I feel even more strongly about this, so I'm posting this.
I don't think it's a good thing to complain. It's hard to be around people that are constantly complaining. I consider myself a very patient person, there are many things I can put up with and complaining is one that tests my patience more than many other things.
I don't think it's a good thing to complain. It's hard to be around people that are constantly complaining. I consider myself a very patient person, there are many things I can put up with and complaining is one that tests my patience more than many other things.
With all of that being said, I'm going to complain. :)
I have been dating a lot. More than ever in my life. Last year I got asked out by some really cute boys, but I could count on one hand how many dates I went on. It's been an adjustment moving into a ward that isn't full of freshmen. My first week here, I immediately noticed how different the boys are. It's definitely WAY different. They're just older... At first, I thought they were scary, but now not so much. I've really had so much fun! This last month I feel like I've made up for lack of dating last year. I've learned that I have a lot to learn, but that's a different matter for another time.
Anyway, during all of this dating in the last while, something has been bothering me... I don't like being taller or close to the same height as my date. I have a very close friend that is dating a guy who happens to be 4 inches shorter than her. It doesn't bother either of them. I think it's great that they can be so crazy about each other, but I don't know if I could ever see past the height difference if it were me in that situation.
In elementary and all through middle school, I hated being tall. I was way taller than everyone around me and it was hard. In 8th grade I was over 5'8". I really hated it sometimes.
Luckily, I've only grown about a quarter of an inch since then. I really haven't grown since 8th grade! I've learned to love my height and I really do love it. I don't like complaining about it, but lately I just keep thinking "If only..."
This last week 2 people have wanted to set me up with someone. The first thing I ask "How tall is he?" It's so silly! If there weren't so many "short" boys asking me out lately, I wouldn't be so worried about it. But seriously there have been about 3 or 4, or maybe even 5 boys! They're great and I have SO much fun with them and I'm interested... it's just... they're too close to my height... I just hate feeling like I can't stand up straight.
It's really not that big of deal and I'm not THAT worried about it. It would just be nice to not worry about it at all.
Alright, I'm done
Advice I would give am giving to myself: "Cindy, there are worse things in the world. If you want to find something to complain about, there will ALWAYS be something. So just stop. Stop worrying about things you can't control. You're not really looking for anything other than a fun date anyway, so what's all of this complaining even about? Instead of complaining, count your blessings. Being 5' 8 and 3/4" is one of them. (Especially while walking through the slush and puddles today. It was great having long legs)
Also, life might be easier if you didn't think about things so much. Relax and just have fun! Date and have fun!"
'Nuff said.
7 comments:
It's so funny how we always seem to want what other have. I would have killed for a few extra inches growing up and playing basketball, but then I never thought about the whole height thing in dating. So funny. We can't wait to see you! We made an agenda for our trip and the first three days just say, "hang out with Kevin and Cindy" So much fun!!!!
I could have written this myself.. in college. Except I didn't really get asked out a lot.
Anyway.. enough about myself. Do NOT change your standards. There is no reason to hold out for a tall guy. There is a guy out there wanting a tall blonde and he will find you! I would never had considered marrying someone who wasn't at least a few inches taller than me. Just wasn't going to happen. Wonder if we were raised to be prejudice against shorties?
Keep your standards up and good luck!
Hi honey,
I remember a time in college when my friends and I were saying what we wanted in a husband. It wasn't like the most important qualities we were discussing, but like you were saying, some things you just don't feel comfortable with. My roommate said she knew she had to marry someone really smart. (She knew your dad was smart, & since I got married that year, she commented to me many times that he was very bright & that I got a good catch). Another roommate said she had to marry someone that could sing, cause it really bugged her when her dates couldn't sing. Neither of their comments struck home to me to me, because I didn't care about my husband being either of those, but I told them my husband needed to really LOVE sports. I knew he would. Isn't it interesting that I your father did. I love you & hope your finals go well. Mom
Just so you know, when I say that these boys are "short" I mean like my height. Seriously, they're like my height, maybe 5'10", or shorter than me. And there's 6 that have asked me out. I'm not even kidding.
Rachel: It is funny how we want what other people have. I really have been stressed about this whole height lately. I feel like I've grown 3 inches when really my height hasn't changed for years. I can't wait to see you! When Kennedy sees me she's going to remember how much she loves me! I seriously can't believe I haven't seen you guys in SO long! Has it been a whole year? Maybe a little less... Can't wait!
Janet: I'm pretty sure you meant to say, "there is no reason to NOT hold out for a tall guy". I think you're right. Are you 5'9"? How tall is Aaron? Growing up with tall brothers and dad... we just think that's how it's "supposed" to be.
In my Strengthening Marriage and Family class we talked about what we look for in dating. I can't remember who said this, but the quote was something about how of course we won't find anyone perfect, but it's important to keep our standards high. :)
Mom: I loved your comment. Dad does LOVE sports. I like that too, when boys love sports, I mean. I remember when I dated Jon this last summer, he didn't like sports at all. That didn't stop me from dating him, but I did think it was bizarre. But Jon was like 6'3" maybe 6'2". I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have dated him if he was around my height. Although there are more important things than height, I do think that I will find someone who is tall.
Tall guys get all the chics! The only reason Rachel and her family saw past my flaws were because of my height.
He really has to be a keeper if he is under 6'. But, if he is over 6'6" then don't hesitate to marry him cause he is going to go fast.
-Tim
hahaha
THIS made me laugh :) i can sure relate with you girlie. being tall can be the pits...
then again,
when i think about it,
i wouldn't have it any other way :D
con amor
Lol, looks like I lucked out. But I totally agree with you Cindy, it's true that there aren't many girls that I know that are taller than me but I went on dates with 2 of them. It was pretty weird... But I guess it worked out, didn't it? :)
-Matt
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